Triggering Strengths

If you look into many of the careers of the most compassionate, effective, highly regarded psychologists, psychiatrists, counsellors, life coaches and social workers they are often so tuned into their niche, as they have experienced some or many of the aspects in which they facilitate. They understand the process from both sides of the fence. They have figured out the genuine link between the phenomenon that our greatest strengths can also trigger our greatest emotional responses.

As I seek and relinquish to be of service in this profession and soul purpose, I am the first to realise that my area of both strength and massive learning and growth opportunities, is connection.

I have spoken on multiple occasions about this through this blog and on my social media.  Connection. The reason behind all that I am doing. Connection to self. Connection in love. Connection in family. Connection in friendships. Connection to professions. Connection to the community. The arts. Humanity. Mother nature. The Universe.

And as the universe is so kind and loving and wants me to learn and grow, this week has been a series of events around this very topic in multiple facets of my life. Friends, family and career have all featured in this weeks soul lessons.

I uncomfortably voiced to my friends some of the personal stuff thats been going on for me. Vulnerability, although I am so aware of it’s power, is still not always comfortable and I started by pushing them away. They, as the keepers do, came back in full force and surrounded me with love. I am blessed. A lesson that connection is safe.

Career was an interesting one. I attended a talk by some local inspiring entrepreneurs that I admire both the business model and the philosophies and culture behind all that they do. Throughout they kept weaving in the importance of connection with those that inspire you and can help you both personally and professionally to grow. I was on the edge of my seat really involved in all that was being said; until the end of the talk arrived and we were invited to come and say hello. I completely shifted gears. Anxiety took over and I rushed for the exit. I kicked myself the whole way home. What a wasted opportunity for connection and networking with people who have been where I am and have gotten to where I want to be.

So, I snapped out of it. I couldn’t undo what had happened but I could still influence what is to come with my actions right then and there. So I stalked them online, got emails and sent them a open honest email about all I just wrote. How inspired I was by them. How much I got from the talk and how I let my fear get the better of me in that moment. I still felt a bit bummed as I took myself off to bed. But when I left work the next day I was floored.

Not only did they respond, they checked out my blog, my website and were full of praise and encouragement. Along with the offer for guidance whenever I need it and that next time I can pass on even a hand shake and go straight for a hug!

OMG I knew they were my kind of people! Beautiful souls, willing to share, nourish, guide and encourage others to live their full potential. Keepers. Another strong example that connection is safe.

The final and by far and away the most soul cleansing of the week, my father. A strong hard working man from the old school generation in which although we are loved immensely, he held his cards close to his chest. When he was not working the farm, which was rare, he was not one to display affection. I have played this dynamic over and over in my life with other males. No ones fault. Just our journey. But today he rang me. I was out with the kids so asked him to call me back. Then my anxiety peaked. Why was he calling? Was something wrong? Is he sick? Even I was shocked at the intensity of the stress I was putting myself through. I was expecting the worst.

So when he rang back all of 45 of the longest minutes later, I was ready to shut down. He seemingly picked up on my demeanour and proceeded to do all the talking! This is generally my domain. But he had my back. He eased me in and we ended up connecting for a good 36 minute chat! I can not express how huge this is. How cathartic and cleansing for me. And for him. That I believe.

I can see that as I work through these things within myself, those around me have either stepped up to show me strength and support or have eased and softened towards me. The stayers in my world are moulding with me. Those that were meant to come and go have done so or will do so. I am happy. I am safe. And I am always connected.

It is this that I look forward to growing into even further and sharing with every soul I am blessed enough to come across in my experience. I truly feel, think, know and believe that my journey, my lessons, my experience and now studies and skill set will allow me to be of such great service to so many of us that feel a lack of connection and are ready to feel again.

In this world, we are increasingly disconnected. Busy is glorified. Most of our daily interactions are through a screen. Many of us coast through assuming that that lack or  wanting for something else is just a normal part of existing. But I am here to tell you it is not. I doesn’t have to feel that way.

Connection is safe. And it is the basis of all strength, love, joy and passion in this wondrous experience we are blessed to call life.

Live it.

Love and light, Michelle xxx

 

Two Things That Tell You You’re On The Right Path

How does one know one is on the right path?

This question is a loaded one. So many factors come into mind when this was posed to me. But as I continue on this journey of self discovery, I am beginning to truly understand and believe the answer comes down to two simple things.
Synchronicities and Self Belief.
Let me explain. Synchronicities are when events in your life seem to all start to come together. They start to align. Shifts in your perception of things are happening at the same time to coincide with events or moments in which you make a choice (usually multiple choices) that lead you down a path of exposure, learning, reflection, growth and change. This may sound so deep but to simplify the concept this even relates to changing your mind about a certain food.
One day you’re adamant you hate mushrooms but then you try them at the right time, in the right place, with the right atmosphere, in the right dish and all of a sudden BAM! Mushrooms are your new favourite and you can’t believe you were so closed off to the idea of them! They’re delicious!! And packed full of nutrients that nourish your body.
But you would never have “known” this had the sequence of things leading up to you trying mushrooms again happened.
Ok maybe not life changing. But healthy nutrient rich foods are good for the mind, body and soul. I was just attempting to simplify the idea.
Mainly due to the fact I get accused of reading into things too much. Over thinking. But again if you think I’m over thinking how beneficial mushrooms are 😆 expand your mind to a bigger scenario in your life. If you are fighting something that shouldn’t be, it will be displayed in your every day as a constant struggle. Energy sucking. And you will constantly be questioning yourself over it. Now this is not to say that picking the right path for you will be easy. It will most probably require you to give something up. It will possibly require hard work and multiple sacrifices. But when everything is lining up the synchronicities are hard to ignore and the pain of continuing as you once did is far greater than the percieved losses to follow your souls urges.
For me the belief that EVERYTHING happens for a reason is directly related to my ability to deal with the hardships I have faced. For if it didn’t happen for a reason; why did it have to happen to me? What did I do so wrong to deserve some of the hurt and pain that has come my way? And for the many people I have spoken to going through trauma or hardship, this belief becomes quite a resounding truth to most. There must be a takeaway lesson or it has all happened for nothing. And that is harder to come to terms with.
Despite this, I never say anything is gospel. You’re welcome to believe different. But I believe in the picture bigger than just you and me. I believe it is all connected and that life is a series of lessons, all for the greater good.
So synchronicities. These babies have been popping up left, right and centre for me at the moment. There is an exciting new direction I have opened my mind to that I will write about next week that I feel is going to be a game changer. It’s all about the growth journey and this one will both challenge me and pull me way outside my comfort zone.
Again synchronising with this big decision, is my participation in a coaching course challenge put to us by the course developer. It’s brilliant. It’s the FUCK FEAR CHALLENGE. Every single day we have to push through a barrier/fear and then post about it on our group page. Seemingly big all small, we write it out.
We hold each other accountable and encourage each other’s progress.
Let me tell you it’s been going for a week and it’s been INSANE!! Talk about accelerated progress. For all involved.
Whether we are willing participants or not, being amongst a team of others and wanting to hold your end of the bargain is an epic driving force for recognising when fears come up and acknowledging you are the only thing standing between you and want you want. Honestly give it a go! Message me even! I’ll hold you accountable!
All of us in just 1 week have had some HUGE wins. And this is where one builds Self Belief.
Self Belief and true confidence (not ego driven confidence) comes from over coming things you once were too fearful to accomplish. You stop looking for outsode validation and you do what feels right. Seriously who gives what others say. Is it their experince? No! Let them have their opinions. Thats their right. But it should not influence you trusting your own gut. And once the balls rolling it feels so empowering you want to keep it going! Fear is totally an illusion in almost all cases. It is simply what stands between you and your dreams.
True story.
Now don’t misunderstand. I don’t think one day it all just clicks and there you are with your shit all sorted. Even through each win the road is littered with massive lessons and moments when you’re questioning why the fuck you’re putting yourself through this. But when your heart is in it for the greater good, you always win. From a soul level. And I think now I have my goals in my heart, pushing through my fears to get there, seems just that little bit less relevant than it all once did.
Now it’s easy to trust I’m on the right path!
Exciting!
Love and light,
Michelle 💖✨