5 Ways To Pull Yourself Out Of The Pressure Zone and Be More Productive

It’s that time of year isn’t it? All of the things you haven’t done are adding up and if where you live is anything like here in Melbourne, Australia – the deadlines appear to be looming as the city prepares itself to go into sleep mode over the Christmas/New Year period.

I did a live on my Facebook page around two weeks ago about this exact thing. (Check it out with the link below) How quick we are to pile up all the crap we haven’t done and didn’t achieve within the year but how slow we are to pull to the front of our mind all the things we have.

https://www.facebook.com/soulboundthemovement/

Classic female! Or people pleaser. Or over achiever.

Because really if we look at the feeling behind it; if we can just say we knocked all these things off our to do list and smashed all our goals – we would finally be worthy. We would finally be a success. We would finally be the epic human being that we always knew we could be.

Right!? Or would you just find more things to add to your list?

I too am guilty of this. A couple of weeks ago it was not looking pretty. Juggling two career roles, single parenting, kids social activities, planning a trip to the west, running my household and finances and still putting my hand up to weed the school garden sent me into overwhelm. However for me these times are becoming less and less and for shorter periods of time simply due to the work I have immersed myself in and the tools I choose to implement.

Meeting ourselves exactly where we are at can be one of the most challenging aspects of self love. Meeting our goals and living up to the expectations we put on ourselves is a relentless cycle of extreme ups and downs. That is is you forget to do any of the following:

  1. Write down all your achievements! Ok okay. So there are things you didn’t get to yet. Yet! This doesn’t mean you won’t. Maybe it just wasn’t the right time to tackle it. Maybe it isn’t meant for you. Maybe there are some things you still need to do or learn first before you tackle this. So shift your focus to just how epic you are. Start small even if it is just that you got up every day. You are here reading this seeking a better way. That voice inside you knows you deserve and this for you. And chances are as you start this list it will all start to flow and you’ll be in absolute awe of how awesome you truly are! Sit in this state and lap it up!
  2. Reach out! Speak to someone you trust. We were never designed to do this journey on our own. You having needs is not a burden and your partner friends and colleagues are not mind readers. (Well they may be -but just incase) Ask for what you need on a personal level. Be honest. If they don’t want to or can’t help that is on them to decide. If you don’t ask you don’t get. This goes for the universe too!
  3. Delegate and prioritise. I am a closet control freak at times. Not trusting others to do it for me the way I would do it for me. But you can not be all things to all people. If you don’t enjoy a task, delegate it to someone who will. Otherwise you will just spend all your time stressed, overwhelmed or procrastinating hoping that it will go away. This leads to a poor job or strain in all the other areas of your life. So let go and delegate. This gives you a way easier task of prioritising what is important to do. Where you should be spending your time and freeing you up to get your flow on and be the most productive version of you.
  4. Where is the pressure actually coming from? Acknowledge it. Is it really all these external factors or is it (and sorry but way more likely) internal. You need to own this. Were you verbally told you would be fired or not loved by your family if you didn’t get your to do list done? Probs not. Obviously at work there are things that need doing and targets that need to be hit but it is up to you to manage this. If it is too much speak to your senior. Explain how you are feeling and be proactive with how you could change it to suit you both. And if it’s not met with genuine concern of your wellbeing then be brave enough to admit that that may not be the right fit for you. At home same goes. Communicate your needs. Stand your ground. If you want someone to meet you halfway be an adult and lead the way.
  5. Give yourself some space to be creative. Whatever creativity means to you. Pop on a song and allow it to wash over you. Draw. Daydream. Write. Sing. Do a cryptic crossword. Juggle. Dance. Whatever it is, the point is that you just let yourself be for some time. Schedule it in. It is so important for your mental and emotional health. When you are in overwhelm you are functioning completely in fight or flight. Bring yourself back into yourself with the strong intention that play is equally as important as work and rest. If not more. You simply can not be physiologically operating at your optimum if you do not do this. So take a break and feel yourself. Then you can come back to it from a more relaxed and recharged state of being.

So there you have it. Five really simple and affective things you could do right NOW for yourself to shift yourself from pressure and overwhelm into a more relaxed and productive state of being.

And we know that is where our best work and self is at. Stop making it harder than it needs to be for yourself.

You got this!

Live in love and flow

Michelle xxx

Energy LOVES Laughter

We all know the saying laughter is the best medicine. And we’ve all experienced the cathartic effects a really good belly chuckle can bring with it. So why when it comes to the world of health, fitness, wellbeing and energy work – all things that are also great for the soul – do we take it so seriously?

I love yoga. LOVE it! But how many would agree, you go to a class and everyone is tight lipped, often rarely breathing and taking every pose so damn seriously. I have definitely been to classes where I have received many a glare through out. And honestly… I don’t care.

Now I am not talking in the end at Shavasana. Although I can also bet we’ve all been to a class were someone farts or gets the giggles in this stage too. But I mean throughout the class. I giggle at myself when I wobble. I giggle at myself when I think of something funny. I giggle at myself when I notice I am taking it all too seriously. Many of the most amazing teachers will tell you; breathe into your pose. Then they will also encourage you to smile. Not just for a laugh (pun intended 😉 Smiling and laughter releases oxytocin into the bloodstream that allows us to release tension and stress thereby allowing you to move deeper into your pose and feel better all round as a result.

Laughter and smiling have so many benefits and the list on Bron Roberts website Let’s Laugh, wellbeing programs all developed around laughter, is impressive. From anti-aging, to immune boosting; from aiding in treatment or heart disease and diabetes to building bonds and resilience, the clinically proven statistics are astounding.

http://www.letslaugh.com.au/content/benefits/laughter

So as society slowly begins to embrace the energy world as more common place, how can laughter help us to connect? Well, in much the same way as it helps us to move deeper into our yoga poses.

The energy body, our aura, our soul or whatever you chose to call it, is forever fluctuating. In a majority of us it is dependant on our outside influences such as our environment, the people and places we have chosen to be around, the society and culture we live in, the air we breathe, and the food and beverages we ingest. EVERY SINGLE THING exists as energy. It is the frequency at which the particles vibrate that determines how we humans view it in our reality. Solid dense matter, such as the device you are reading this on now, is simply vibrating at a lower frequency.

This concept is no different for a thought. For an emotion. For a belief. For a perception or lens that we chose to look at the world through. So we are connected to energy all the time because we are energy all the time.

But what if changing the draining energy of a low vibe emotion was as easy as cracking a smile. Well great news…IT IS!

Part of connecting to the energy that is running through us, around us, that is us, is first to acknowledge it. With no shame or judgment. What you think and feel up until you are aware that thought or feeling doesn’t work for you doesn’t count. There is no reason to beat yourself up for what was if you are making the courageous choice to learn and grow.

Then name it. What is the thought? What is the emotion? Expressing it, even quietly to yourself can bring clarity and understanding so you can isolate the energetic imprint without those old sayings like “I am just broken” or “I am messed up” or “Nothing ever goes my way” etc etc. When we feel a bit shit we tend to be great at catastrophising our whole existence.

Then really connect to it. Close your eyes. Feel where it is in your body. Notice the heaviness, denseness or weight it appears to be placing on that part of your body.

Now that you in your entirety is giving it attention, send it love. Allow yourself to see what it is without attaching to it. Chances are in this moment you are in no real danger. Remind yourself of that. You are safe and loved. Then allow the smile to take over your face.

Allow it to grow. Allow it to develop. Allow it to burst into a giggle if it is ready to. Allow yourself to use this natural state of laughter – as natural to us as breathing – to ease the density of the energy you feel. Allow it to open you up so you can release the energy back into the world around you.

Honestly, this can be challenging. But in terms of a technique to pull out to quickly refocus your energy, it is GOLD. And effective. I have personally found as I force myself to smile, I feel silly and then its easy to break into laughter.

JOB DONE!

Then as you feel the density of the energy disperse you can be really attentive and mindful to that energy leaving your body.

And what an amazing process it is. The power is always with us. If we choose to use it.

Just smile,

Love and light, Michelle xxx

 

 

Total Acceptance (3) – Victim

Ok so victim is more of an archetype or part of the personality than an emotion, but it is one we are well versed at acting out.

As a society we are pretty quick to pass the buck, blame and divert and deflect from our own bullshit. We are pretty good at acting like life just happens to us and we have no control over the outcome. In the corporate world, in our personal lives, in how we treat the planet, in how we treat ourselves.

As I started to learn about the “victim” element that resides in ALL of us, I initially rejected it. That actually makes me lol. Because that exact rejection was me acting out the victim traits.

But I kept telling myself “I am allowed to be a victim” “I am a victim”. I have been sexually abused, emotionally abused, physically abused. I am allowed to act out the victim. To make me feel better about all the shit that has gone down, I need those around me to feel sorry for me and make it all better. But I continuously learnt the hard way. If you put all that power in others hands, you are in for a big fall my friends.

Stepping into personal development, growth and enlightenment takes courage. To truly look at your stuff and take ownership of your emotions, actions, thoughts, beliefs and perceptions is as brave as it gets. So no wonder stepping into this space triggers our inner victim left right and centre.

If we look at the victim they are often perceived as powerless, weak, scared, all blaming, possibly even deserving of the bad that has happened to them. But as with everything in this universe; you can not give rise to these elements without the equal and opposite elements residing within in you. Every single thing you see within you both “good” and “bad” has, in the right circumstances, the ability to be expressed and acted out. Really think about that. Polarity is in everything. Duality. So therefore in the empowered version of the victim qualities are powerful, strong, courageous, ownership of self and awareness of life lessons and universal patterns.

So how do you get perspective and see where you are acting out in the disempowered or shadow aspect of victim?

  1. Expression: Watch how you are talking. Both internally and externally. Even in humour. The subconscious mind has no sense of humour. Here in Australia in particular it is common practice to joke about our perceived bad qualities, traits and misfortunes and thats ok too, but just check in occasionally and see how saying those things to yourself actually sits with how you want to feel in and about yourself.  An example of this is I would say if I made a mistake “Lucky I am cute” meaning I am not smart. But as I have become aware of my over expressed victim,, I feel an internal reaction in my body when I say this, yelling “HEY! Im very smart thank you!”
  2. Language: building on the last point watch the words you use. Common phrases “I can’t do that”, “I should do that”, “I am trying”, “I had to”, “they, he, she, made me feel…”. These are all statement that immediately give our power away. Rephrase this simply by just owing it. “I can’t” could be more that you actually haven’t tried, or you attempted it but feel you could do better next time, or you actually really don’t want to. Thats ok. But say it for what it is. “I should” – well says who? Do you want to for you? “I am trying” – this is an interesting one. It is good to have a go and try things but when you use this term as a means of justifying why you are in a place you are not comfortable, you’re actually not empowering yourself. Just say “I am taking this, this and this step to get to where I want to be”. “I had to” – simple. No you didn’t. We always have the power of choice. “They, he, she, made me feel…” no one can make you feel anything. You chose what emotions you allow yourself to attach to.
  3. Actions: simple bodily responses will enable the victim. So stand with your back straight. Head up. Eye contact where appropriate. Take up your space in the room. Don’t shrink to make others feel comfortable. Just allow yourself to be as equally as important as everyone else on this planet. You are!

See the thing that got me about this stuff, was it actually made me angry. But they did this this and this and that is wrong! Well the flip side of that is who the fuck am I to decide what is wrong. It was wrong by me, but essential for both my and their journey. Therefore my power is in getting to now chose to no longer be around those people, places, situations or take on those emotions that don’t serve me.

You have this power within you too. I promise. Allow yourself to shine.

The world needs your glow. And always remember the over expressed victim has a right too. Don’t shame it. But empower it to be free so you can live in self power, love and peace.

Love and light, Michelle xxx