Energy LOVES Laughter

We all know the saying laughter is the best medicine. And we’ve all experienced the cathartic effects a really good belly chuckle can bring with it. So why when it comes to the world of health, fitness, wellbeing and energy work – all things that are also great for the soul – do we take it so seriously?

I love yoga. LOVE it! But how many would agree, you go to a class and everyone is tight lipped, often rarely breathing and taking every pose so damn seriously. I have definitely been to classes where I have received many a glare through out. And honestly… I don’t care.

Now I am not talking in the end at Shavasana. Although I can also bet we’ve all been to a class were someone farts or gets the giggles in this stage too. But I mean throughout the class. I giggle at myself when I wobble. I giggle at myself when I think of something funny. I giggle at myself when I notice I am taking it all too seriously. Many of the most amazing teachers will tell you; breathe into your pose. Then they will also encourage you to smile. Not just for a laugh (pun intended ­čśë Smiling and laughter releases oxytocin into the bloodstream that allows us to release tension and stress thereby allowing you to move deeper into your pose and feel better all round as a result.

Laughter and smiling have so many benefits and the list on Bron Roberts website Let’s Laugh, wellbeing programs all developed around laughter, is impressive. From anti-aging, to immune boosting; from aiding in treatment or heart disease and diabetes to building bonds and resilience, the clinically proven statistics are astounding.

http://www.letslaugh.com.au/content/benefits/laughter

So as society slowly begins to embrace the energy world as more common place, how can laughter help us to connect? Well, in much the same way as it helps us to move deeper into our yoga poses.

The energy body, our aura, our soul or whatever you chose to call it, is forever fluctuating. In a majority of us it is dependant on our outside influences such as our environment, the people and places we have chosen to be around, the society and culture we live in, the air we breathe, and the food and beverages we ingest. EVERY SINGLE THING exists as energy. It is the frequency at which the particles vibrate that determines how we humans view it in our reality. Solid dense matter, such as the device you are reading this on now, is simply vibrating at a lower frequency.

This concept is no different for a thought. For an emotion. For a belief. For a perception or lens that we chose to look at the world through. So we are connected to energy all the time because we are energy all the time.

But what if changing the draining energy of a low vibe emotion was as easy as cracking a smile. Well great news…IT IS!

Part of connecting to the energy that is running through us, around us, that is us, is first to acknowledge it. With no shame or judgment. What you think and feel up until you are aware that thought or feeling doesn’t work for you doesn’t count. There is no reason to beat yourself up for what was if you are making the courageous choice to learn and grow.

Then name it. What is the thought? What is the emotion? Expressing it, even quietly to yourself can bring clarity and understanding so you can isolate the energetic imprint without those old sayings like “I am just broken” or “I am messed up” or “Nothing ever goes my way” etc etc. When we feel a bit shit we tend to be great at catastrophising our whole existence.

Then really connect to it. Close your eyes. Feel where it is in your body. Notice the heaviness, denseness or weight it appears to be placing on that part of your body.

Now that you in your entirety is giving it attention, send it love. Allow yourself to see what it is without attaching to it. Chances are in this moment you are in no real danger. Remind yourself of that. You are safe and loved. Then allow the smile to take over your face.

Allow it to grow. Allow it to develop. Allow it to burst into a giggle if it is ready to. Allow yourself to use this natural state of laughter – as natural to us as breathing – to ease the density of the energy you feel. Allow it to open you up so you can release the energy back into the world around you.

Honestly, this can be challenging. But in terms of a technique to pull out to quickly refocus your energy, it is GOLD. And effective. I have personally found as I force myself to smile, I feel silly and then its easy to break into laughter.

JOB DONE!

Then as you feel the density of the energy disperse you can be really attentive and mindful to that energy leaving your body.

And what an amazing process it is. The power is always with us. If we choose to use it.

Just smile,

Love and light, Michelle xxx

 

 

Total Acceptance (2) – Guilt

There are many profound quotes around the emotion of guilt.

  • Guilt is to the spirit, what pain is to the body ~ Elder David A. Bednar
  • Guilt is anger directed at ourselves for what we did or did not do ~ Peter McWilliams
  • Guilt is perhaps the most painful companion of death ~ Coco Chanel
  • Guilt is always hungry; don’t let it consume you ~ Terri Guillemets

Then there is the dictionary definition:

  • a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offence, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined.

To me, whilst they are all valid, they don’t give huge scope to identifying and shifting the feeling within.

Guilt for me has featured in many parts of my life, but none compare to the guilt we can put on ourselves as parents. When I decided to follow my heart and part ways with the father of my kids the guilt that followed was immense. Basically I wondered if I had ┬ácompletely screwed up these perfect little humans for life with my “selfish” choices.

But guilt comes in many forms and it doesn’t need to be a big scenario such as mine in order to trigger it. Guilt is either when you yourself feel you haven’t lived up to your own values and morals OR; that of someone you have allowed to have power over how you see yourself.

How many of us feel guilty for eating dessert? For flirting with that person at work? For drinking too much on a night out? For not making it to the kids assembly because you had to work? For accidentally sharing information about someone you weren’t supposed to? For saying not so nice things about others? For not helping those who have looked out for you? For living in a nice house when your friends and family may not? And so on and so on…

And that is just what we do to ourselves. What about the dynamics in which we allow others to project their ideals onto us and if we don’t live up to them we feel guilty for “letting them down” or “not making them proud” or whatever else they try and pull over you and you allow yourself to take on.

I know I have had to check myself as a mum when I have pulled the whole “You will do as I say – I went through 28 hours of labour for you!” bullshit. Or as a partner the more subtle “even though I have slaved away all day cooking and cleaning and looking after the kids – sure go out with your mates”. All along hoping the passive aggressive guilt trip will do the trick and he would indeed stay home and help. Not surprisingly, it never worked.

Although these types of dynamics can be tricky to navigate as always, the most powerful thing we can ever do to neutralise such a ‘dis-ease’ as guilt is to look to our own internal environment.

Our internal environment is all about layers. The lens or perception that we look at situations in our environment colours everything we do. Whether you are aware or not. If you are operating in fear you will consistently behave in reactive ways to stimuli instead of being thought out and responsive. Many of us know this, but boy-oh-boy when a strong low vibrational energy comes in such as guilt, how many of us sit in that energy. Think about it. Entertain it. Dissect it. Imagine different scenarios around it. And blame, shame and bash ourselves up for not doing better in the first place.

But that is ok. Because this space is the exact place of power. When you are guilting yourself for something; anything – start small – maybe having two pieces of cake at the birthday party, or forgetting to ask your friend how the first day at their new job was – STOP. And tell yourself this new truth.

Guilt is beneficial. That is right! It is not BAD. It is necessary. It is there to show you that the situation involved does not align to who you are. The purest form of you. Your soul. It is purely a little life lesson that instead of feeding with self- shaming behaviours and begging for forgiveness; you just simply need to acknowledge, show some compassion and take steps to alter the outcome in future similar situations.

Acknowledging your emotion of guilt for what it is, is beyond powerful. I have done a lot of work around this with my separation and subsequent unsuccessful romantic relationships. Yes I made mistakes but I am learning. We never stop learning and growing. And mostly I have learned to see guilt as an integral part of my own internal compass that is guiding me to lead the life I truly desire to live.

In every possible way.

Love and light, Michelle xxx

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